Clinch a Victory over your Worst Enemy!!!
I am a firm believer that Storytelling is a powerful tool for communication and to drive home a concept. So, let us start with an old and interesting fable – “The Eagle who thought he was a Chicken” (Author Unknown). The story goes like this. A farmer in a remote village, while wandering on a mountain trail, found a large magnificent egg lying on the ground. Clearly, it must have fallen from a bird’s nest. He looked up and found a nest very high on the branch of the tree. He knew that it was virtually impossible for him to return the egg to the nest. Kind-hearted as he was, he also did not like the egg to perish without the baby-bird inside seeing the light of the day. He thought of a plan. He carefully carried the egg back home and coolly placed the egg with the few chickens kept by him in the barnyard. At first, he was suspicious whether the hens would accept the stranger. But, to his relief, no such thing happened. Soon he found the mother hen sitting atop the stranger egg and taking good care of it as if it was her own egg. A few weeks went by. One fine morning, to his amazement, there emerged a beautiful eagle from the egg. Strangely, the other chickens around did not treat the baby eagle as a stranger at all and treated him as one of their fellow brethren. So, the baby eagle was raised by the hens & the chickens as their own.
Now the baby eagle slowly grew up with all other chickens in the barnyard & learned all that they do by imitating them. He clucked and cackled. He scratched in the dirt for seeds and worms to eat. He quacked enthusiastically when a hen laid an egg. He grew up with the chickens believing that he himself was a chicken. Soon, he could learn to flap its wings, fly a short distance a few feet above the ground and crash suddenly on to the ground, exactly like the chickens did. He believed that was all he was supposed to do and accordingly that was all he was able to do. He enjoyed running around with his brother & sister chicks. Life was good, comfortable & fun.
Days passed by. One day, the baby eagle saw a huge bird flying high above in the sky soaring majestically & was very impressed. He asked his brethren – “What is that?” “He is an Eagle, the king of birds.”- replied a hen. “I wish I could fly like him”- expressed the baby eagle. At this, all the chicks roared with laughter. “You can’t. He is an eagle. Eagles are birds of sky. We are chickens. We are birds of ground. We can’t fly high. Don’t ever think of impossible things & make yourself a laughing stock.”- retorted a hen. So, the baby eagle never thought of flying high and obviously never attempted to fly high. The baby eagle lived & died like a chicken because that is what he believed himself to be. And that is the end of the story..
What a pity? Though the baby Eagle was born to fly high, he was conditioned to remain on the ground like a chicken, because he believed himself to be a chicken. .
The Vicious Circle of Self-Limiting Beliefs
Don’t laugh at the poor bird. Unfortunately, what was true for the baby Eagle is true for most of us. Most of us continue to harbor, with or without our knowledge, beliefs which limit us in some way or the other and prevent us to even try to achieve what we are capable of, keep us stuck and constrict ourselves to attain our true potential. The beliefs we have about ourselves shape our life. If we have not been able to live a life worth-living, if we feel that we have not achieved what we are capable of, if we feel that we have not been able to grab the opportunities that have come our way; it is because and only because of our Self-limiting beliefs. Our self-limiting beliefs greatly influence our thoughts, which are in this case irrational and unreasonable. Such thoughts give rise to debilitating feelings and emotions like pessimism, fear & panic. As such, the actions we take, the behavior we exhibit, which are greatly influenced by our feelings and emotions, become inappropriate. Such behavior, getting repeated over and over again, culminates in incorrect and irrational habit. That gives rise to poor and unproductive performance and ultimate result. Our performance / result, in turn, substantiate and strengthen our self-limiting thoughts and beliefs. And thus, the self-sustaining vicious circle continues. As our father of nation Mahatma Gandhi said – ““Your beliefs become your thoughts. Your thoughts become your words. Your words become your actions. Your actions become your habits. Your habits become your values. Your values become your destiny”. For a detailed discussion on belief systems, self-limiting beliefs, different hues of self-limiting beliefs and their origin and also why our self-limiting beliefs are in fact our worst enemy, I would request you to please go through the article written by me “Have you met your Worst Enemy???” published in “IMPEL INDIA – ISSUE 1”.
Cognitive Consistency and Cognitive Dissonance
A brief discussion regarding what psychologists term as Cognitive Consistency and Cognitive Dissonance is apt here. Self-limiting beliefs are very deeply embedded in our Sub-conscious Mind. Our Sub-conscious Mind is focused on keeping intact our Belief System, including Self-limiting Beliefs, irrespective of whether they are logical or not. Every new information received by us through our sense organs or any thought that occurs to us or any behavior we tend to exhibit, goes through an immediate evaluation regarding its consistency or otherwise, with our existing deeply held belief system. We tend to seek consistency in our beliefs & perceptions. If the information or thought or behavior is consistent with our Belief System, there is no issue. Rather the existing Belief System gets strengthened in the process. But, if we develop any belief or have an experience, which is in contrast to our existing deep-rooted belief system, a state of disequilibrium or imbalance ensues. This gives rise to tensions & discomforts. This state is called Cognitive Dissonance in psychology. Our sub-conscious mind, whose focus is to keep our belief system intact, will do whatever possible, to restore the balance or equilibrium. In such an event, something must change to restore the equilibrium. Most often than not, equilibrium is restored by ignoring or rejecting the new information, thought or belief as incorrect or else by rationalizing. A classic example of rationalization is “Grapes are Sour”, the phrase originated from the fable of “The Fox and the Grapes” in Aesop’s Fables.
Now, let us come back to the Eagle and Chicken story again. When I came across the story first time long back, I could not believe myself – “How can an interesting story like this can have such a tragic end?” I did some searching and thankfully found three different extension versions of the same story. I would like to cite the version I liked the most, which I found at blog.amirkhella.com (My heartfelt thanks goes to Mr. Amir Khella for the same). The story develops like this.
Some days lapsed. Life of the baby eagle & chicks continued as usual. But, the baby Eagle somehow was not able to forget the magnificent site of the Eagle soaring high above the sky, which was briefly witnessed by him and continued to have a wishful longing to have a glimpse of the soaring eagle at least once more. It so happened, after some days, the same Adult Eagle was flying once again over the barnyard. The baby eagle looked up & the adult eagle looked down and both eyes met, as if with a strange coincidence. The adult eagle could not believe what he saw – a baby eagle running around with a group of chicks. He decided to have a word with the baby eagle and made a quick surge to the ground. As the chicks saw him descending, they quickly fled to safety behind the door for fear of their life. However, the Adult Eagle could make a quick landing just in front of the Baby Eagle before it could reach the door.
Thus went the conversation between them
Adult Eagle- “What are you doing here running around with the chickens?”.
Baby Eagle– “What do you mean by that? I am a chicken. I am playing with my brothers and sisters.”
Adult Eagle – “No baby! You are not a chicken. You are an eagle like me. Your beaks, your wings, your legs are all like me. Unlike the chickens, you do not belong to the ground. We are meant for soaring high in the sky.”
Baby Eagle – “No, I don’t believe what you say. I am one of them. I cluck like them. I eat whatever they eat. I also can fly a short distance like them, only a few feet above the ground. How can I belong to the sky?
Adult Eagle – “My dear baby! I understand. It is not that you don’t have potential to fly high. The fact is you are not able to fly high because you have never attempted to fly high. If you try honestly, take my word for it, you can also fly high like me; simply because you are born an Eagle just like me.”
Baby Eagle – “I don’t know whether what you are saying is right or wrong. I frankly don’t know whether I was born an Eagle. But the fact is I am grown up with all these chickens throughout my life, eat what they eat and do what they do. Even if I was born as an Eagle, as you say, I have no longer remained an Eagle.”
Adult Eagle – “Baby! It hardly matters what you ate or where you lived or even with whom you lived. It’s only the heart of an eagle that matters. Please believe me & come with me. I assure you can also fly high like me because you are truly an eagle.”
“Don’t trust him”- shouted one of the chickens from behind the door. “He is trying to fool you. He will eat you up.” – yelled another. The baby Eagle was nervous & unsure what to do. The Adult Eagle touched his wings gently and said in a soft voice – “Come baby! Come. Prove your friends you are an eagle, not a chicken like them. As if by magic, the baby eagle could hear a faint and soft voice from deep inside him giving him the all powerful re-assurance to believe and follow the old Eagle. He gave a cursory glance at the barnyard as if to bid good bye to his friends, turned around and looked at the Adult Eagle with confidence. “That’s it”- said the Adult Eagle re-assuringly – “and now follow me with confidence.” The Adult Eagle spread his wings & moved up slowly. The baby Eagle imitated him, spread his wings and took a leap. “Never look down. Don’t listen to your so-called friends. Have faith in yourself. Turn your beak upwards. Look up at the sky. Look up at the Sun. Spread your wings as much as you can. Now, soar high.”- said the Adult Eagle, fondly guiding him throughout the flight with encouraging words when he was feeling nervous and seemed to be falling down. It worked. To the amazement of all the hens & chickens gathered down below and looking upwards with baited breath, the baby Eagle followed the Adult Eagle, slowly at first, and then little faster and soon both of them were soaring upwards together.”
Now, what is the lesson learnt? As long as the baby eagle thought himself to be a chicken and believed that he could not fly, he could not. He could fly only when he changed his belief. Same thing is applicable for us. If we overcome our self-limiting beliefs, we can achieve our true potential and can lead a fruitful life. And it is entirely doable. You can eliminate most of these self-limiting beliefs and manage the rest of it. But, it is not as simple as you may think. As we discussed earlier, our limiting beliefs inclusive of our self-limiting beliefs are deeply ingrained in our sub-conscious mind. To understand & appreciate the ways and means to get out of the clutches of our self-limiting beliefs, a brief discussion regarding how our Conscious and Sub-conscious Mind work may be useful.
Conscious and Sub-conscious Mind
It is worth knowing that we have two different parts of our mind, which are distinct from each other – the Conscious Mind and the Sub-conscious Mind. But, most of us associate ourselves only with the first part that is the Conscious Mind because it is that part of the mind where we spend most of our time when we are awakened. But, that does not mean that all actions take place here.
To discuss briefly, Conscious Mind is in control of all the actions that we carry out intentionally while being conscious. Which dress you choose to wear for a party, which menu you choose to eat in a hotel, which conveyance you take for traveling to a distant place; which schedules you will follow today; all such things are decided by your Conscious Mind. It is responsible for rational, analytical and logical functions. Conscious mind can distinguish between good and bad, and positive and negative. It is also visionary and can look into the future, visualize alternate choices and draw the action plan. It is the mind which takes decisions for life. Thoughts originate here. It acts as the gate-keeper and controls the thoughts entering into our sub-conscious mind, but plays limited role in execution. It can influence, though not control, the Sub-Conscious Mind. Sub-Conscious Mind, on the other hand, is responsible for all our in-voluntary actions. It controls our heart-beat, breathing rate and digestion. Though our Conscious Mind takes rest when we sleep, our Sub-conscious Mind does not have any rest. It works 1440/ 24 / 7 / 365 non-stop. Many of our routine functions like brushing our teeth, combing our hair, tying our shoe-lace, washing our face and legs after stroll etc. etc., which we carry out mechanically without any real thought and effort are done by our Sub-conscious mind. Moreover, Sub-conscious mind is known as the world’s best information sponge. It is the store-house of memories and all the experience we have gone through. For example, if you go to a library for a professional book and consciously go to the particular book-self to pick the book without being consciously aware about other books in the library or the visitors to the library or the sitting arrangements, if any, or even the old watchman at the gate; your sub-conscious mind carefully records all those and furnishes to you if and when needed. Recently, I visited Ajanta Caves in Aurangabad along with my better-half, my younger daughter and son-in-law. To me, I thought it was my first visit there. But, once inside the caves, I developed a very strong feeling that this place is not new to me and I have visited this place earlier. In the evening, I telephoned my eldest sister-in-law (my parents having expired long back) and checked up whether she had any idea if I visited this place earlier as a child. Sure enough, she confirmed that I had gone there with my parents when I was about 4 years old (56 years back). I immediately knew that my sub-conscious mind was at work; though I have forgotten all about it, So, Sub-conscious Mind, in addition to being a store-house, is also an expert data-minor. To elaborate, if you meet a stranger in a party, but have a sudden feeling that you have met him earlier and after a brief discussion with him, you could figure out that both of you met in a professional workshop five years back; take from me, your sub-conscious mind was at work.. Our feelings and emotions are also controlled by our sub-conscious mind. That is why it happens sometimes that we get up early in the morning and suddenly feel dull or scared or anxious or in a bad mood without any rhyme or reason. Moreover, our sub-conscious mind is responsible for all our habitual and routine actions, which we carry out day-in and day-out without conscious thinking and conscious decision. Let us take a simple example. Think of how you learnt to drive. Initially, you took a lot of conscious efforts to watch all the cars around you, to control the steering wheel, to synchronize the clutch, break and accelerator, to observe and obey the traffic signals and all the while trying to negotiate where to turn left or right, which lane to go etc. But, as you continue to do the same thing over and over again, you Sub-conscious mind learn from all those repetitions and eventually take over. If you have been driving for a while now, just think up how much you do consciously and how much you really do without paying any attention as if it is done automatically. That is because your Sub-conscious Mind is really doing the work for you, in auto-pilot mode. However, Sub-conscious Mind has its own limitation. It believes what is fed by the Conscious Mind to it and cannot distinguish between a real and imaginary experience. It can also not distinguish between good or bad and positive or negative
Which mind really controls you? If your guess is Sub-Conscious Mind, you are right. Brain Research strongly indicates that. The Sub-conscious Mind controls about 90% of our choices and the conscious mind controls hardly 10 %. In fact, the Conscious Mind is like the tip (only about 10%) of the iceberg which is above water and visible to us. Sub-conscious Mind is like rest of the iceberg, which is below the water surface (about 90%) and not visible to us. But, that also does not mean that we are at the mercy of our Sub-conscious Mind. We are not. Conscious Mind is like the captain of the ship. No thought can enter your Sub-conscious Mind without being approved by your Conscious Mind. But, though it is the captain in the ship who passes orders, it is the crew who execute it. That being so, any decision by the Conscious Mind gets influenced by the Sub-conscious Mind through the data it stores and also the belief-system that stay embedded in it. For example, assume that you have a deeply ingrained self-limiting belief that you are a failure. A challenging assignment is given to you. Even if you would like to take up the assignment as you consciously think that you have the capability to complete the same, your Sub-conscious mind will continue to influence your Conscious Mind that you can’t because of your self-limiting belief that you are a failure. It will dig out all the data from the memory-bank how you have failed in similar situations earlier & deter your Conscious Mind to take up the challenge. This will continue as long as the concerned limiting belief stays in your sub-conscious mind. Having already understood that all of us have some self-limiting beliefs, may be in varying proportions; and self-limiting beliefs are our real hindrance to achieve our true potential; what is the solution? Are we supposed to fold our hands, sit quietly, continue to mourn and wait for the Lady Luck to somehow save us? Obviously not.
The ABCD……. Of Victory Plan –
Let me put it in another way. Would you like to clinch a Victory over your Worst Enemy – your own Self-limiting Belief? I know the answer. It is yes. But, as is said- “Everyone can dream success. But, weaving dreams together into a cohesive whole is quite an art.” –Anonymous. The solution lies in weeding out our self-limiting belief(s) or changing them for the better. The underlying principle in the steps described below is to work through your Conscious Mind, your logical, pragmatic and rational mind to convert the so-called self-sabotaging cycle (as discussed earlier) to self-empowering cycle. But, how? We need to consciously eliminate one by one our self-limiting destructive beliefs and replace them with self-rejuvenating beliefs. But, it is not easy. They are hard nuts to crack and will give an ugly fight. So, we need resolve and determination and a lot of patience and persistence to clinch a victory.
1.Aware & Acknowledge – The first step is Aware & Acknowledge. This is also most important step. You need to dissociate yourself from your self-limiting beliefs. They derive their strength only because of association with you. Be aware that you are neither your self-limiting beliefs nor your thoughts. You are also not your mind; it is just a part of you and a tool used by you. Also be aware that it is absolutely normal to have limiting beliefs and more particularly self-limiting beliefs. Even most optimistic and most successful people are not completely free from limiting beliefs. Only difference is that they are aware of it and able to manage it for the better. Acknowledge that you have self-limiting beliefs. One easy way psychologist’s advice is to write down your limiting beliefs. As long as these limiting beliefs stay in your head, they create a mumbo-jumbo mess. It is argued that the moment you write down and transfer them from mind to paper, you become more powerful & stronger. Take some time off and jot down all the self-limiting beliefs you have. The moment you do that, 50% of the battle is over. Be aware that you cannot eliminate your limiting beliefs all at once. You need to do it in phases.
2.Believe – You are not bound to believe your self-limiting beliefs. Every limiting belief you have, need not be true. They can lie to you. Don’t give any credence to the rubbish they tell you, even trying to convince you that you and your mind are one and the same and the said limiting beliefs are correct. As we discussed earlier, every individual has a unique belief system, which are in fact information that we have gathered in the past both consciously and unconsciously, which are accumulated and stored deep inside our sub-conscious mind. Our perception of any event or any new information is filtered by this unique belief system of ours, obviously different for different individuals and accordingly we make our own assessment about the world around us. Be aware that our perception, as such, may not be correct. Perception varies. There is a saying in my mother tongue, which when translated into English, reads something like this: “The mother of a boy bitten by a snake gets scared, even when she happens to see a thick rope”. There is never just one way to look at something – what one sees, gets greatly influenced by his perspectives, perceptions and the meanings he/she ascribes to it. Perception in fact is not the reality. In order to progress in our life, we need to change our limiting beliefs. It is like ejecting a DVD and replacing it by another DVD, that we like better. Have strong faith in yourself that it is doable and you can do it. As rightly said by Henry Ford — “If you think you can, you are correct. And if you think you can’t, you are also correct.”
- Command, Confront & Challenge – Understand that you are the boss, neither your limiting beliefs nor corresponding thoughts. Please understand none of them can harm you without your specific approval. Such self-limiting beliefs are bound to be there and you can’t obviously wish them away or prevent them from cropping up, but please do not offer them a cozy chair. The simplest thing you can do is to stop listening to those self-limiting beliefs and challenge it. This can be done by utilizing the influence your Conscious Mind can exercise over your Sub-conscious Mind. Pass a command authoritatively– “Hello! I know you are not correct. I don’t agree with you. You can’t win me over. STOP.” If you do not confront it, your mind believes it and your brain acts on it. Challenge your limiting beliefs and suck the power out of it. Please do not jump to the conclusion that this can be done overnight. A limiting belief is built over a long time and as such it will definitely take time to remove them. But, confronting a limiting belief over and over again will take the steam out of it. Once you start challenging, they will begin to shake. We will discuss this point a little more in later part of this article.
- Divert and Distract – One noteworthy characteristic of your limiting beliefs is, what is called in psychology, rumination. That means your mind keeps replaying the same belief, the negative thoughts associated with it and evidences from past in support of them over and over again. Another characteristic is that they come in flocks, one after another followed by another & so on. So, it is of immediate necessity to stop the flow in order to distract your mind completely and divert for productive utilization. Self-limiting belief seeps in without any warning whatsoever. Then what can you do to distract? Consciously avoid it, take yourself out of the firing range. Simple trick is to make yourself busy consciously with some other activity, which you enjoy. Yes, you can go for a walk or intense physical workout, call a friend, go for a movie or watch a TV show (preferably comedy), listen to your favorite music or engage yourself in a brain exercise game like Sudoku puzzle etc.; there are so many things you can do straight away. Some prefer to go for relaxation techniques, breathing exercises and meditation etc. This distraction gives you immediate relief from their clutches. This technique is based on the principle of focusing on the present moment. Most of our negative thoughts associated with our limiting beliefs are concerned with what has already happened or what is yet to happen; that means about the past or the future. Focusing on the present means to concentrate on & mindful of what we are doing at this exact moment of time. If you are on a walk, focus on the scenery, on the trees, the greeneries, the flowers, the butterflies and for that matter whatever that keeps you happy. The more you focus on the present moment, the weaker your debilitating thoughts become. But, remember that distraction or diversion is not the solution to end your limiting belief. This gives a temporary relief. It is at best postponed, but not eliminated.
- 5. Dissect & Debate – Now take the advantage that your Conscious Mind is logical & rational. Take up any limiting belief, analyze the same & start questioning the basis and authenticity. Once you analyze objectively & start questioning, it loses its power. Go to the root of the belief. What this belief is all about? Why do you have such a belief? How this belief originated? Is it by some actions you have taken or because of the advice / criticism of somebody? What are the evidences in favor of this belief? Are those evidences real or imaginary? Do the evidences have any bearing in the current situation? Is the belief true in the present juncture? Are there any evidences against this belief? What are they? Suppose your limiting belief is you are a failure; then you are questioning the basis of that belief. It is important because most of the times your limiting belief in your Sub-conscious Mind influence & persuade your Conscious Mind to jump to conclusions; even if it does not logically flow from the given situation. For example, you have a limiting belief that you are a pathetic presenter. When you questioned the evidence in favor of this belief, you found that the origin of the belief was based on some remark by a senior colleague at the end of the presentation made by you in the early part of your carrier that some of the points were not clarified properly. This belief got strengthened by few remarks here and there by your colleagues during subsequent presentations. When analyzed further, you could understand that this belief is a pathetic exaggeration. There were numerous occasions when your presentations were superb. In fact, you have received more kudos than brickbats, when understood in totality. So, on analysis, you find that your limiting belief is ill-founded. The next question to ask is – Do I have all the facts or do I need to collect some more facts for coming to a conclusion? This is very important since most of the limiting beliefs are based on insufficient data or information. If the limiting belief or the associated negative thoughts is triggered by certain event, you can question – What else that event could mean? What could be alternate explanations? It is useful to ask yourself – Am I exaggerating? In fact, most of the limiting beliefs are nothing but exaggerations. You also need to ask yourself – Would others agree that my limiting belief is correct? Think of you describing your limiting belief to some of your close friends and family members. What is going to be their reaction in all probability? Are they going to agree with you or simply dismissing your limiting belief as figments of imagination? In fact, I have been able to eliminate a couple of my limiting beliefs by discussing with and soliciting opinion of my close friends. The next question to ponder over is -How would you respond to a close friend if he/she had been in such a situation? This is important because most of us are good advisors. Imagine your best friend is in similar situation; he comes to you & asks for your advice. Think of what advice you are likely to give him and why that advice can’t be applicable for you? Follow up with questions like – What is the worst thing that can happen? What is the best? What is most realistic? The moment you ask these questions, exaggerations will melt way and objectivity will emerge.
- Evolve and Exchange – This is a very important step. The idea is simply substitute your self-limiting belief with a positive belief about yourself. First convince your conscious mind based on facts and then let it pass on to your sub-conscious mind. But, they also need to be realistic. For example, let us say you are thinking – “I am nowhere near my target in reducing my weight. I am an utter failure in my weight-control measures.” But, instead of thinking as above, start thinking – “Yes, I am facing some challenges in controlling my weight. My progress is slow. But, I am working on finding out the solutions. And I will succeed.” In both, you are basically telling the same things; the only exception being there is self-limiting connotation in the first, whereas there is self-rejuvenating tone in the second. That little shift in the tone will make a huge difference in your thinking pattern and the ultimate result. Be aware of Shades of Gray. We have a tendency of thinking of events in extreme terms. Life is not as simple as that. Instead of thinking “I am a total failure”, you can think “Yes, I am partially successful. I need to put efforts to increase my percentage of success.” Try to think in realistic terms instead of absolutes. Exchange your limiting beliefs and negative thoughts deliberately with positive beliefs and positive thoughts. This is known as the Law of Displacement, a very important step in which you get rid of your irrational, hopeless, stressful self-limiting beliefs by rational, strong, logical, self-rejuvenating beliefs with layers of hope & expectations; just like getting rid of darkness in the room by switching on the light.
If you have gone sincerely through the steps A (Awareness), B (Belief), C (command, control & challenge), D (Divert & Distract, Dissect & Debate), this step E (Evolve & Exchange) is not going to be very difficult for you.
- Follow up – Just replacing a limiting belief once with a helpful belief will definitely help you in getting rid of your immediate problem. But that is not all. For changing your life for the better, you need to ensure that your limiting beliefs do not trouble you time and again. For the same, you need to change your belief system & thought pattern permanently. Eliminating self-limiting belief is a daunting task. This is because of working of the Law of Inertia. If you have substituted a self-limiting belief by a more positive belief once and thought that the matter is over once for all, you are wrong. It does not happen that way. The self-limiting belief surfaces again & again in different situations. So, you need to follow up and build more and more evidences in support of your substituted belief, till the belief is deeply ingrained in your sub-conscious mind. It is possible with constant practice and consistency. Practice makes a man perfect.
Now, we know how to clinch a victory over our worst enemy, which is our own self-limiting belief. I would like to end the discussion with a quote from Leonardo Da Vinci – “I have been impressed with the urgency of doing. Knowing is not enough; we must apply. Being willing is not enough; we must do.”
So, dear friends – Choice is Yours.